Why Can't We Relate

By Lucius Gantt

Why can't Black marriages and relationships last? Perhaps for a variety of reasons, but I think most of us don't know what love is.

Some women get excited when a man shows them a picture of the passenger side of a best friends ride or a photo of mama's house. Men get sprung when they see a long weave, a blond wig or some drug store nail polish.

No one asks about titles and deeds, no one asks about talents and skills, and no one asks about honesty, loyalty, spouses and side pieces.

I have two daughters. I told them both, "It is not the rental car you should be interested in. You should be interested in the lady or man driving the car!

The internet has impacted Black love lives. Our people spend more time scroconversationslling or trolling on the internet than they spend in conversation with the man or woman they are supposed to love.

To me, it takes more time than a minute to trully discover who you're dealing with before you crawl into a bed wih someone.

Male and female players know exactly what to say to someone at a club who winks their eye at you at midnight in the club. Even if you engage in a club conversation for five or ten minutes, smart people can tell in a short time if club talk can turn into meaningful and important discussions.

Hmmm? I don't hang out at night clubs but I've heard club conversations probably include talk about "what kind of car do you drive", "what kind of neighborhood you live in" and how much money do you make"?.

So, interest talks will eventually get to money and time. Someone will say, "You don't spend time with me." Well, if you spend a ,ot of time sharing space, you're not spending a lot of time making money and hustling. And, obviously if you work a lot on a job r business, you can't spend time laying around watching your partner watch videos from people who've never been in a good, longtime relationship.

I understand people can grow apart and change their likes and dislikes, but ifthat's the case, why do men and women go back to the people and relations that they ran away from?

Every day Internet influencers and podcasters post videos and comments about what people like and followe. You'll see more posts about mistreatments and misrepresentations. If you watch videos about bad relationships, internet algorythyms will send bad relationship videos to you every day of the year.

I think men and women have to work together to build relationships that work and grow. If you want to play the field and spend nights with sex partners you don't know and don't love, go for it.

Who wants a merry-go-round relationship that will spin out of control whenever someone on the internet sends you a post that says your partner is unworthy.

I never drop my friends. But I will stop doing what I want and need to do for someone that does things with many others while trying to find a loving needle in a communication and sexual haystack!

If you can't be with the one you love, love yourself!